We have all been there……having a falling out with someone is hard. Hurtful words are said, expectations were not met and then only GOD has the ability to restore that particular relationship. But really what causes the issues is that one makes expectations that are not met by the other person.
Why do we do this to people? And why do we hold people to an impossible standard instead of realizing that people are broken and imperfect and need grace more than anything. When we “expect” things from people, whatever that looks like, you can bet life will get in the way and before you know it runaway emotions will take over. Expectations were not met. And in our sinfulness, we “expected” rather than “extended” a grace for that person.
PHILIPPIANS 2: 3 “DO NOTHING FROM SELFISH AMBITION OR CONCEIT, BUT IN HUMILITY COUNT OTHERS MORE SIGNIFICANT THAN YOURSELVES.”
The NASB version says: “consider one another as more important than yourselves.”
More important? See that is where expectations fail because when people don’t meet our expectations, we are living in a self-centered prideful mindset. I am not denying that any relationship, family or friend is not difficult, but we are commanded to keep GOD in our hearts and minds……
PSALM 19: 14 “LET THE WORDS OF MY MOUTH AND THE MEDITATIONS OF MY HEART BE ACCEPTABLE IN YOUR SIGHT.”
If our words and thoughts are acceptable in the sight of GOD, then maybe we can be more forgiving and give that other person the benefit of the doubt, instead of getting upset that they didn’t “do” something we expected of them. How can we ever expect such a high standard from anyone near us when we ourselves don’t even come close to GOD’S standards!
CHRIST AND HIS GRACE FOR US IS WHAT WE CAN BELIEVE IN AND EXPECT IN OUR LIVES.
By HIS grace alone, we learn what true forgiveness is all about and that our expectations of one another are so human and flawed and will never be met while we are on this earth. What we can expect from GOD and HIS word is this:
HEBREWS 13: 5 “…….FOR HE HAS SAID, I WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU NOR FORSAKE YOU.”
What a wonderful promise! What a wonderful Savior! Only our LORD JESUS can meet any expectation of HIM that we may have. There is no one who has the depth of love that we need except HIM. There is no one who can forgive us and make us new. There is no one who can give us grace upon grace. We can go to the CROSS over and over and the invitation is always there.
WE ALL ARE BROKEN WITH HOLES IN OUR HEARTS THAT NO ONE SHOULD BE EXPECTED TO FILL……..EXCEPT JESUS!
So as best we can, and as far as it depends upon us, let’s drop the expectations. They are futile because they truly won’t ever be met, not on this earth……leave that only for the ONE who knows you and loves you in the midst of all your expectations and sin. Leave it all into the hands of the ONE who died for you, because HE is good and HE is capable and loves you more than you will ever know!
TITUS 2: 11 “FOR THE GRACE OF GOD HAS APPEARED BRINGING SALVATION FOR ALL PEOPLE, INSTRUCTING US TO DENY GODLESSNESS AND WORLDLY LUSTS AND TO LIVE IN A SENSIBLE, RIGHTEOUS, AND GODLY WAY IN THE PRESENT AGE.”