A SOFT ANSWER……

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Summer is a great time for looking at the bright blue sky with all those puffy soft looking clouds.  I love to try to see if the clouds really look like any one thing.  If you study them long enough, they will move into different shapes.  They appear to be soft white puffs of cotton floating so peaceful for all to see.  And this has me thinking…….when was the last time you gave a soft answer to anyone?  You know the kind, one filled with love and grace for the other person.  

Our emotions seem to get the better of us and with each passing day I realize that we have become an angry culture, angry even to the point of death!

We tend to get angry when we don’t get our way, angry when we have to wait in line, and angry when the morning paper doesn’t come on time.  Having anger is an emotion we all have.  Even JESUS got angry with the money changers in the Temple.  But JESUS’ nature was one that was gentle, kind and humble and HIS words were always grace-filled.  So when we do become angry about something, what then do we do with that anger?

I am most struck by how anger is shown to others on the internet, FB and Twitter.  Boy do people love to rant and rave there. And if someone really disagrees with you, watch out.  It is quite sad to see some of the vile words that spew out of people’s fingers onto the keyboard, all with the intent of wounding.  I wonder, would they say those things out loud to the person’s face?  Probably not!

PROVERBS 15:1 “A SOFT ANSWER TURNS AWAY WRATH…….”

As Christians we should be able to exert some self-control don’t you think?  We need to look at our anger and decide what kind of “fruit” do we produce with it.  Is it necessary at the time, or are we just unable to control our emotions?  Maybe we need to look at the condition of our hearts.  Is your heart angry or compassionate? Since we are all in a different place with our faith walk, some of us may have to do more work in this area than others. 

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What and whom are you surrounding yourself with every day?  I have heard the saying: garbage in, garbage out.  What do you watch and what kind of music do you listen to?  Who do you surround yourself with and what do you read?  Do you spend your free time in the WORD?

PROVERBS 18:21 “DEATH AND LIFE ARE IN THE POWER OF THE TONGUE.”

Do your words to others help them grow or do your words destroy?  Once again I will say, every word we speak MEANS something to someone. Saying words filled with grace, seeing others better than yourself, takes courage to do,  especially when we crave those kind words ourselves.  Remember my post on being invisible?   

PROVERBS 16:24 “GRACIOUS WORDS ARE A HONEYCOMB, SWEET TO THE SOUL…….”

Each day let us try, and that’s the important word here:   try………to speak soft whether it be to our husbands, our children or our friends and even strangers.  I’m not saying you can’t ever be angry, but I am saying that GOD is the ONE who can help us with our control and what we do with our anger…….especially with our angry words.  HE is the JUDGE and JURY, not us.

I have heard it said “if you don’t have anything good to say, then don’t say anything at all.”  Well, I TOTALLY DISAGREE with this statement!!  Words of omission hurt as well!  And if you can’t find anything good to say, that is judgement on your part.  That is using anger and resentment by withholding grace for that person.  We need to see others as GOD’S children and humble our tongues before HIM and before those around us.  Having nothing to say is prideful…….it’s being in control and making it all about you. 

PROVERBS 18: 4 “THE WORDS OF A MAN’S MOUTH ARE DEEP WATERS.”

Let your words be a wellspring to someone else.  Let people draw deeply from your love, encouragement and hope.

OUR…….KIND WORDS…….ARE NEEDED…….SO MUCH……RIGHT NOW……..IN OUR TROUBLED WORLD. 

Let the anger go and replace it with HIS healing grace.  Pray for it and hold fast to it.  Ask GOD to remove the anger and fill you with HIS pure healing love and a love for HIS word.  When that happens, and your words become grace-filled, then it will be pleasing in HIS sight…….and you will be a blessing to others sometimes more than you will ever know.

PROVERBS 15: 1 “BUT A HARSH WORD STIRS UP ANGER.”

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2 thoughts on “A SOFT ANSWER……

  1. The age-old children’s taunt of “sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me” holds no truth. Words CAN and DO hurt and sometimes the hurt lingers for years. May we all take a moment to weigh our words before we release them from our mouths. ANYTHING said or done in anger will only cause pain and repercussions for everyone involved. It’s far too easy to speak damaging words in the heat of the moment when tempers are flared and you want to be vicious. But once spoken you can’t erase them or take them back. Never say in anger what you wouldn’t say when your heart is full of love! Lord, help me to live by this advice!!!

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  2. AGREED! Once the words are out there you can’t take it back. Your silence matters too, depending on the situation you are in. Sometimes it is better to NOT say those hurtful words in anger, but omission when the person beside you needs your support and love is wrong too. Put yourself aside and FIND something good to say, something helpful to that person. Your silence can speak volumes! And it comes from a place of insecurity, or jealousy or envy, or whatever you want to call it. I think as Christians, this is where we need to put others BEFORE ourselves no matter what we are feeling. Say a kind word, do it, and with that you will honor GOD and HIS commands. Thanks for your input Suzanne!

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